Unless your entire social circle decides to become parents all at the same time, becoming a new parent can be an isolating experience. Emily Barth Isler shares “10 Rules For Picking Up New Mom Friends at the Playground” – tips and encouragement to help you find your community. Be sure to read her complete list! Our favorites are:
3. Overshare
Once you get a good conversation going with a fellow new mom, you can feel free to share your birth story if it comes up. Complain about sleep deprivation. Compare breast pump techniques. Coo about how adorable both of your babies are. You know, say the things you’re not going to say back at the office to Randy from marketing.
4. Ask awkward questions
Not just any awkward questions, of course, but don’t be afraid to talk about things you might usually not broach with strangers. For example, with a regular stranger at a work function, you might not bring up her boobs. With a new mom who you’ve seen nursing her baby at mommy-and-me yoga, feel free to ask how breastfeeding is going. In this case, it’s actually polite. Even if you feel weird, she might be glad you’re giving her a chance to talk about something she’s dealing with or something she’s proud of.
5. Don’t be afraid of rejection
If the new mom you approach at your baby’s music class doesn’t seem into you, give her another chance in a week or two. This is not some weird “don’t take no for an answer” thing; I’m just saying that at this exceptionally overwhelming, emotional, crazy stage in life that we call “new parenthood,” we all have those days where we’re not in the mood to talk or think or be out in the world. So go easy on the seemingly unfriendly mom at the playground and try again another day if she seems more open.
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Essential Baby highlights a new trend for celebrating the breastfeeding relationship between mom and child – breastfeeding tattoos! Author Evelyn Lewin explains:
Psychologist Sharon Draper, author ofStuck in the Mud, says the tattoos can be beneficial, as they can remind mums of the strength they found during breastfeeding.”They can [also] be a form of self-expression to show the world how proud they are of something they believe in,” she says.
Sharon says breastfeeding tattoos also send a positive message to others.
“For other mothers, seeing these mothers embrace breastfeeding in this way can provide a form of support to them, to let them know it’s a positive thing and we shouldn’t be ashamed of it.”
To find inspiration and images, visit the entire piece here. Ms. Lewin also suggests:
If you’re contemplating getting a breastfeeding tattoo, it’s easy to find inspiration on social media. Type in ‘breastfeeding tattoo’ on Facebook or Instagram and you’ll find many beautiful images of these works of art. Pinterest has stunning examples, too – as does a simple image search.
Kangaroo care has long been used for premature babies but has become popular for full-term babies as well. Ronald Reagan UCLA Medical Center regularly practices kangaroo care, and UCLA OB-GYN Dr. Lydia Kyung-Min Lee and pediatrician Dr. Larry Gray discuss is many benefits in this NPR article.
The benefits are many, according to Dr. Lydia Kyung-Min Lee, an ob-gyn at UCLA. Not only is the baby happier, she says, but his or her vitals are more stable. Body temperature, heart and breathing rate normalize more quickly. The close contact also allows the baby to be exposed to the same bacteria as the mother, which can protect against allergies and infection in the future. Infants who receive kangaroo care breast feed more easily, Lee says, and their mothers tend to breast feed for longer periods of time, which is “all good.”
Babies also seem to suffer less pain. Almost 20 years ago, Gray studied how babies respond to a heel prick to draw blood, a procedure that screens newborns for genetic disorders. He found that when healthy newborns had kangaroo care, there was less facial grimacing and crying suggesting pain, compared to babies who had been swaddled and had the procedure in their bassinets, “sort of alone.”
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