Unless your entire social circle decides to become parents all at the same time, becoming a new parent can be an isolating experience. Emily Barth Isler shares “10 Rules For Picking Up New Mom Friends at the Playground” – tips and encouragement to help you find your community. Be sure to read her complete list! Our favorites are:
Once you get a good conversation going with a fellow new mom, you can feel free to share your birth story if it comes up. Complain about sleep deprivation. Compare breast pump techniques. Coo about how adorable both of your babies are. You know, say the things you’re not going to say back at the office to Randy from marketing.
4. Ask awkward questions
Not just any awkward questions, of course, but don’t be afraid to talk about things you might usually not broach with strangers. For example, with a regular stranger at a work function, you might not bring up her boobs. With a new mom who you’ve seen nursing her baby at mommy-and-me yoga, feel free to ask how breastfeeding is going. In this case, it’s actually polite. Even if you feel weird, she might be glad you’re giving her a chance to talk about something she’s dealing with or something she’s proud of.
5. Don’t be afraid of rejection
If the new mom you approach at your baby’s music class doesn’t seem into you, give her another chance in a week or two. This is not some weird “don’t take no for an answer” thing; I’m just saying that at this exceptionally overwhelming, emotional, crazy stage in life that we call “new parenthood,” we all have those days where we’re not in the mood to talk or think or be out in the world. So go easy on the seemingly unfriendly mom at the playground and try again another day if she seems more open.
At Babymoon Inn, we have created a safe space to come try these tips out. Join us weekly at the Nest at Babymoon Inn for a wide variety of activities and the opportunity to come make new mom friends! See our calendar for upcoming events.
Every month, members of the Nest at Babymoon Inn gather for Crafty Mamas. Coffee, crafting, cuddly babies, and chatting with other mamas… What more could you ask for?
A month ago, “Tree of Life” breastfeeding selfies went viral, and our Babymoon community quickly jumped on the trend, sharing their own gorgeous photos in our Facebook group. One Babymoon mama suggested getting together to create painted versions, and thus our January Crafty Mamas was born!
It was an overcast, chilly day today – perfect weather to meet up with friends for some painting. More than 15 mamas (and their babies) arrived at The Nest. Some chose to use graphite paper to transfer their photo to canvas and paint with acryclics. Others opted for water colors, gel pens, or sharpies on cardstock, and others used acrylic paint on a color version of the photo to add depth and texture. As usual, the array of creativity an artistic ability was quite impressive.
As with any Inn Mommies meet-up, there were babies nursing, babies sleeping, babies in slings and wraps and car seats. Some mamas painted while simultaneously wearing or feeding babies, and others painted in between tending to their little ones. The room was full of laughter and talking – a staple of any Babymoon gathering. The beauty of Crafty Mamas is that there isn’t any need to finish anything or meet an expectation. It’s about the process, not the product!
Thank you to all of the mamas who attended today! We are looking forward to next month’s Crafty Mamas. Have an idea for Crafty Mamas? Be sure to share it with us!
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Babymoon Inn is a full-scope midwifery practice and wellness center with locations in Phoenix and Tucson. Our team is committed to improving maternal outcomes and providing personalized, evidence-based care to all people.