But, is that SAFE?

But, is that SAFE?

Almost from the minute you announce a pregnancy, well-meaning friends and family will start to ask questions and give you their input.  Strangers feel free to comment on the size of your bump, will tell you stories and share their opinions with you freely.  When you have chosen an out-of-hospital setting, it can be difficult to decide whether to expose this decision to world for comment!  Sabrina Jo Stevens shares a great discussion of this topic in a recent Romper piece:

Most of the time, people who ask this question expect you to answer with the name of a local hospital, so if you say “Such-And-Such Birth Center” or “Home,” it can start a conversation one or both of you weren’t necessarily planning on having at that particular moment. “Do I really feel like having a conversation that will almost certainly end with me ranting about America’s maternity care system on the subway right now?”

Can you relate?!  How many times have you been asked, “but is that safe?! Is it frustrating to you that families who plan  to have their babies in the hospital aren’t asked the same questions?

All of us at Babymoon Inn can certainly relate to her conclusion:

If you want to actually choose your own birth adventure, you sometimes have to pay for it with extra time or money, even though covering these options fully for any family that wants it would save our entire healthcare system tons of money.

And that’s how I end up ranting about our maternity care system on the subway.

8 Signs You Need a New Provider for Your Pregnancy

8 Signs You Need a New Provider for Your Pregnancy

Recently, a study was released that found women are more afraid of childbirth than previously thought.  As a doula and childbirth educator, I opened the linked article with interest, expecting to find that women were scared of pain or fearful that they or their babies may not be healthy.  Instead, their greatest fears included being abandoned by their provider or that their providers wouldn’t treat them with respect or listen to their concerns.  They also feared being “expected to bear the brunt of decision-making responsibility.”  The article called the findings “a lukewarm endorsement at best of the maternity care given to mothers in the United States.”

One of the first choices you will make when you become pregnant – before you find out the sex or choose the nursery theme or plan your shower or hire a maternity photographer – will be the care provider who sees you through your pregnancy.  Here’s a list of red flags that may indicate your provider is not the best fit for you.

  1. unspecified-4You have different goals for your birth. Are you planning to go into labor naturally? Find out your provider’s policies about induction.  Is a Cesarean birth something you want to avoid?  Inquire about your provider’s Cesarean rate and the reasons he/she most often performs this surgeryAre you planning an unmedicated birth?  Ask your provider what percentage of her patients birth without epidurals or narcotic pain relief.  This goes the other way too – I recently met a woman who planned an epidural, only to discover that her provider doesn’t “allow” them after a certain dilation (see number 2).  She was unaware of this policy until she was already in active labor.  She left the hospital traumatized by her birth.
  1. Your provider doesn’t practice client-centered care.  He may use words or phrases like “allow” or “try” or “we’ll see.” An ideal client-provider relationship will revolve around shared decision-making. Are you hoping for a VBAC with this new pregnancy?  How did your provider respond?  A supportive provider might say: “I’ve looked at your history and think you’re a great candidate for VBAC. I love supporting women seeking a VBAC, and my success rate is high.  Let’s do everything possible to help you reach your goal and still have a healthy mom and baby.”  Consider it a red flag if the response is something similar to, “Well… Let’s see how things go and perhaps I’ll let you try for a VBAC.” With a trusted provider, you will come to decisions together about what is best for your baby and for you.
  1. Short appointment times or lack of personalized care. Are you peeing in a cup, waiting for a nurse to take your vitals and weight, and then sitting in an exam room waiting again for a provider who then spends 5-10 minutes with you, checking items off a list on his or her computer?  Are you given the time to ask questions, to discuss concerns and fears, and to get to know your provider?  Do you feel rushed?  It is impossible to provide personalized care in such a short amount of time.  Avoid cookie-cutter care that is the same for every patient.
  1. Dismissive of your concerns. It is frighteningly common to hear about pregnant women who brought concerns to their providers, only to have them dismissed with the response, “Well, that’s normal.”  It’s true. Pregnancy DOES often bring with it a variety of odd ailments and afflictions.  They may in fact be “normal.”  But your concerns or discomfort should not be dismissed.  A supportive provider will take the time to explain why you are experiencing the symptom and help you find ways to alleviate it. When you ask questions, you shouldn’t feel demeaned or unintelligent.  The response should be in layman’s terms and absent of medical jargon. It should be compassionate. You should feel like you are being heard.
  1. Poor communication. Is it easy to reach your provider outside of your appointments when you have a concern? Is there an on-call number for you to reach him/her directly? If not, how quickly do you get a phone call back?  It should be easy to reach your provider 24 hours a day, and this communication should be welcome and encouraged.
  1. Lack of evidence-based care. Do you find yourself having to advocate for things you know are best practice?  For example, intuition and an overwhelming amount of evidence support the golden hour after birth (baby skin-to-skin with mom and no one but the parents touching baby).  Is this standard practice for your provider and hospital?  What about delayed cord clamping?  Intermittent monitoring?  Be wary of a provider who labels you as high-maintenance or even high-risk for questioning or declining certain practices and interventions.
  1. unspecified-6Bait-and-switch. This is the hardest one to prepare for, and the one that happens so heartbreakingly often.  Maybe you were told that your hospital has L&D rooms with beautiful tubs.  But you weren’t told that you can’t get in one if your membranes have ruptured.  Or that they don’t have waterproof monitoring and you will have to get out of the tub every time a nurse needs to check heart tones.  Or that you can’t actually birth your baby in the tub – it’s just for labor, not birth.  Or that only some of the rooms have tubs and there’s a chance you won’t even have one in yours.  Were you told intermittent monitoring is acceptable and available?  Does that mean the use of a wireless Doppler during contractions? Or does “intermittent” mean 20 minutes out of every hour spent on your back in bed with two bands around your belly while you are denied freedom of movement.  Were you promised a “birth center” and instead given a dressed-up hospital room with all of the same hospital protocols and interventions you were trying to avoid?  Did you choose a respected doctor who is an amazing surgeon but doesn’t support physiological birth?  Did you, looking for a natural approach, choose midwives but find that they aren’t practicing the true midwifery model?  That they order unnecessary tests and ultrasounds?  That they have a financial stake in your birth and it influences your care?  If you’ve experienced any of these red flags, consider looking for alternatives. Pregnancy, labor, and birth proceed best in a calm, peaceful, environment free of stress.  If you are entering your birth experience already on the defense, or you’re caught off-guard by surprises you weren’t prepared for, you’re creating stress hormones that will impede labor, opening the door to the cascade of interventions, poorer outcomes, and dissatisfaction with your birth experience as a whole.
  1. It doesn’t feel right. This is the last item on the list but arguably more important than all of the others combined. Trust. Your. Gut.  Do you feel anxious at appointments?  Does your provider use scare tactics? Do you dislike calling him or her because you feel like are being a bother? Did your provider call you by the wrong name or forget an important detail about you or your pregnancy?  It may not be quantifiable, but you know something doesn’t feel right.  Or… is the opposite true.  Do you look forward to prenatal appointments and get a warm, fuzzy feeling when you tell your friends about your provider?  Do you chat like old friends and hug at the end of appointments? Do you pop into the office just to say hi, greeted by smiling faces happy to see you?  Is the office staff pleasant on the phone and in person?  If all of these things are true, you likely have no need to worry about 1-7 above.  But if you sense something is off, or you sense you need more from your care, honor that instinct and explore other options.  It’s almost never too late to switch providers or birth locations and choose a provider who is on YOUR team.  Don’t take your chances and promise to do something differently “next time.”  This birth counts too.

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Diana Petersen received her journalism degree at the University of Arizona.  She is a DONA-certified doula and Lamaze-certified childbirth educator at Babymoon Inn, an accredited birth center and full-scope midwifery practice in Phoenix, Arizona.  For more information about Babymoon Inn, please visit https://babymooninn.com.  To follow Babymoon Inn on Facebook, click here.

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Self-care is Health Care!

During the month of November, Babymoon is celebrating self-care and reminding parents to take some time for yourselves.  We have a host of activities planned, from mini-massages, to dress-down days, to body work sessions, to grilled cheese and tomato soup in the office.  Included in the festivities are mini-facials with Babymoon mommy and esthetician Victoria Bridgford!

Victoria has been married to her husband Kyle for six years and had her beautiful baby boy Kolten at Babymoon Inn last year.  Victoria is an Aveda Institute trained and licensed Esthetician who offers facials at the Nest at Babymoon Inn through her business, Touch of Radiance.  Victoria partnered with fellow Babymoon mommy and skin chemist Chelsea Cavender of Slather Lotions to create a custom line of products that are safe for both pregnancy and breastfeeding!

Victoria is getting RAVE reviews for her facials, and we wanted to learn more about her and the services she offers.

What made you want to be an esthetician?

I wanted to become an Esthetician so that I could make people feel beautiful. I started out with my focus in makeup and then while I was in school I fell in love with skin care. This shift occurred when I realized the problems people were covering with makeup could be fixed! Helping people to heal their skin and gain their confidence is incredibly rewarding.

How did you start your business, Touch of Radiance?

The idea to start Touch of Radiance began while I was working in a corporate esthetics environment. When I got pregnant I became hyper aware of what I was putting on my skin and the products I was using. Also, I wanted to continuing getting facials, but I was concerned about the safety of the products used in those treatments! I started Touch of Radiance to fill the need for a safe environment for pregnant and breastfeeding mothers to relax and refresh their skin without concern. It has been amazing to be able to operate my business out of The Nest at Babymoon Inn where we are a part of such a supportive community!

What services do you offer?

Right now I offer a Custom Facial that is tailored to the needs of the my guest. There are several services in the works to be added in the future, but for now I offer a simple and relaxing treatment that can work for anyone.

tor_marketing_wb46of84What takes place during a facial?

During the consultation at the beginning of the treatment I give clients a quick foot bath so they can relax into the space. Next I do a breathing routine to help connect them to the treatment and allow them to leave their worries outside the door. I move into a double cleanse and tone followed by a skin analysis so I can see how we can customize the facial to their specific skincare needs and goals. The first mask applied will even tone and draw out oil under steam to help detox and prepare the pores for extractions. While the mask works on the face I do a foot massage so the client has a head-to-toe relaxing experience. I do all of my removals with hot towels to help increase circulation and nourish the skin cells. Then I do gentle extractions followed by a face and décolleté massage. While the second mask is working on the skin to provide deep hydration and healing antioxidants, I do a hand and arm massage. After the mask is removed with a hot towel, I do an moisture application of eye cream and moisturizer.

All of my treatments include consultations and recommendations to help maintain the integrity of the skin. Educating my clients on how to build a home care routine that works for their schedules and for the benefit of their skin is an important element of my job. I particularly love to empower my clients to take the health of their skin into their own hands by encouraging them to learn the ingredients in their products and how their skin can reap the benefits of those ingredients.

tor_marketing_wb1of84What is unique about your services or products?

My services are unique because they take a gentle approach, allowing your skin to respond to the products and not forcing results before the skin is prepared. I use all natural products from a local small business, Slather lotions, that have been created specifically for these treatments. I was able to consult on the creation of these products to make sure the ingredients are pregnancy safe, breastfeeding safe and plant based while be effective. I mix my own masks during the facial with high quality oils, mechanical exfoliants, a hydrating base and concentrated add-ins rich in plant extracts to make sure the treatment is specific to the client’s needs and focus.

Can one get a facial while pregnant or breastfeeding?

Yes! The treatments we do are safe for pregnant and breastfeeding mothers, but there are definitely questions you should ask before visiting your local spa. Always make sure that the Esthetician you are visiting has an adjustable table so that you don’t have to lie flat for too long, that the products being used are gentle and that the techniques and treatments aren’t too aggressive.

How often do you recommend your clients get facials?

Depending on the state of your skin, it can take around four weeks for your skin cells to turn over and be ready for another facial. There may be circumstances that require more frequent visits, but about a month is standard for most clients. A monthly treatment paired with a consistent home care routine and a good diet can provide the skin with everything it needs to be healthy and happy.

Anything else you want to share about yourself or your business?

Through December 25, you can purchase two gift certificates for $10 off or three gift certificates for $20 off!  Gift certificates are good for a 60-minute Custom Radiance Facial at The Nest At Babymoon Inn! Visit: https://touchofradiance.net/booking to purchase your holiday gift certificates today! #givethegiftofwellness

Facials cost $60 and I have a no-tip policy.  Babymoon clients can choose to receive either a complimentary massage from Babymoon’s massage therapist or a complimentary facial with Touch of Radiance!

Also, I’ve streamlined my booking to be as simple as possible and I’ve adjusted my hours to include later Friday appointments and some Saturdays. You can see my availability and book online at https://touchofradiance.net/booking, you can email me at booking@touchofradiance.net or book through Babymoon Inn!

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